One of my Empath Connection subscribers, Matt, says “I have a problem in that I am very sensitive to the repressed emotional pain of others around me, and absorb it like a sponge. Most of the time I can handle it, but it means I am unable to sleep in the same room as my wife, or anyone for that matter. I will wake up feeling blurry and nauseous the next morning, with a strong hangover type of feeling.”
Matt’s situation is quite common for those of us who are sensitive to energy.
Finding and claiming your own personal space while sleeping while in the context of a relationship is a skill that many of us are longing for. For some of us, the thought of being engulfed causes us to avoid relationships in the first place. For those of us who already are in loving relationships, there are some things we can do to establish boundaries, especially when it comes to sleeping arrangements.
Empaths require good quality regenerative sleep more than the average population, and yet our sleep can be fraught with problems unless we take the matter into our own hands. Many of us simply cannot handle the energy of our partner for too long. There is nothing wrong with that. There is no guilt or shame in knowing that. Your partner’s noises and movements during the night may cause you to lose sleep, leading to less than ideal energy the next day.
Furthermore, energy fields merge when you are so close to your partner, and you may be absorbing his or her energy during the night. It is for this reason that it is wise for you as an empath to make an informed and self-aware decision about how you will sleep. Are you willing to sleep in the same bed with your partner? It doesn’t have to be the only option. The beauty is you get to decide.
Wouldn't it be wonderful if you could share your truth with your partner and let them know your experience as an empath and that includes being especially sensitive and open to energy during sleep?
Perhaps experiment with different options to make sure you get a good night's rest. You can sleep in another separate bed in the same room, permanently sleep in an entirely different room, temporarily sleep in another room to recharge, or you can come together as a couple a few nights a week and sleep in the same bed if that would generate connection for you as a couple. The latter option is what I do with my partner, and it works beautifully! We keep the connection and yet these established boundaries work well for both of us.
Experiment to see what feels right for you, and discuss your sleep with your partner regularly, to make sure you’re both on the same wavelength. This will ensure that your boundaries will continue to be respected, and your healthy relationship with flourish. Most of all, know that you are empowered for whatever choice feels right to you.
The only rules when it comes to sleeping arrangements are the ones you create for the benefit of yourself, and ultimately the benefit of your partner and those with whom you interact on a daily basis.